Marriage

I would like to say that the next 13 years were fun but I'm not a good liar. Our son Joshua was born on June 24th, 1986, 25 years to the date after me. That's right he was born on my birthday, after 29 hours of labor. I made a joke during labor that it must have his fathers nose and it keeps getting hung up in there. We were still living with my parents. I came home the day I had him. My Dad, my Grandma, and my sister Joy were there when I got home. The next day I was sore from my neck to my ankles. The baby was crying, all Mark could say was, get the f.... up and get the baby. I said I can't I'm to sore. He gave me a shove instead of getting up for me. That was pretty much how the whole marriage went. We moved in with his sister and her husband. That was a mistake. I saw him shove a gun in her mouth. There were certain ways she wanted things. We finally moved to NY. My friend Debbie let us stay with them for 2 weeks. Then we moved into a 1 room effiency apartment. We lived in NY until Josh was 13 months. I didn't work that whole year. We moved back to FL. I stayed @ my parents with Josh. Mark stayed with his parents. I did it that way because then that way Mark would be motivated to get a house. Sure enough, in one month we had a mobile home. I started working again at T J Maxx. Started going out with my friends to clubs. Let Mark go out. I trusted him. Because I knew I wasn't cheating. Then he started accusing me of cheating. This went on for the rest of our marriage even when I quit going out. In January of 1990 I was expecting baby number 2. Mark's Mom died April 30th. Our daughter Jerusha was born Sept. 24th, 1990. After only one hour of labor. Then in 1992 I was in a bad accident. A lady T-boned me. I got a settlement. We bought our first real house. The kids were 8 and 4 we were going to church on a regular basis. I thought life was good. Then Mark started acting weird again. I was really involved in the church. In the choir and the daycare, Mark drove the church bus. At one point some man called my house threatening Mark's life for supposedly hitting on his wife. I gave the guy our address and told him to cone on over I had a bullet with his name on it, he never showed up. That was the beginning of the end for me. I started going to male reviews with Rosalee, someone Mark befriended..,more tomorrow.

The Wedding

It was a chilly Decemember day. After having to change my plans several times, we finally got married at the club house in the mobile home park where we were living with my parents. Wehad the reception there too. It was small I did wear a wedding dress with a hat with a veil. It was victorian. We were to have a car with a rumble seat. Didn't get that either. There were about 35 people their. The food was good prepared by my mom and his mom. My maid of honor was Janet a girl I barely knew because my best friend bailed on me because she didn't like Mark. My dad walked me down an isle between folding chairs. To the wedding march which my friend Denise played high as a kite because she she was nervous. She kept repeating the first two lines. I didn't wear my glasses. But I saw David's girlfriend wearing a white dress with a black hat. I was so upset. My friend Marg caught the bouquet, David caught the guarder. When he had to put it on Margie's leg his girlfriend got mad and left. Tried to disrupt everything but that didn't work. So she sat in the car and sulked. When we went over to his parents house that night she wanted an apology, she didn't get one from me or Mark. I was hormonal @ 3 months pregnant any way.

Mark

I'ed like to say Mark is interesting, smart, and charming but he's not. I met him as I said before when I was out with my friend Denise. Her and I and some guy friend of hers, I don't remember his mame, all went out to the ABC lounge in Apopka. We went in sat @ the rotating bar had a few drinks. As it ustally went in those days I would only buy one or no drinks. As soon as I walked in the door someone would ask me to dance I would say yes and that was that. Dance then a drink. Well this night no different. Only the second guy I danced w/was Mark. He said he saw me up on the dance floor w/this biker lookin' dude and wondered why I was w/him then when I came his way to sit down and said excuse me because I bumped him, he had to dance w/me. We danced, the man can dance. He looked rough, long jet black hair, dirty clothes, a Harley hat w/a naked woman w/wings and military boots on. I thought what the hey he can dance and as long as he buys the drinks. Then he tells me he has a show corvette outside I said yeah right. Well then Denise's friend gets kicked out so we leave. We're in the parking lot he smokes the tires, here comes this corvette. Oh @ this point he tells me everyone calls him Sparky. Denise starts freakin' out thinkin' the guy in the vette is gonna kill us till I tell her it's the guy I met inside. He asks me to ride w/him to ABC in Casselberry. Denise says go ahead her and her friend will follow us. I said ok but if tries anything funny I'm jumpinh out I don't care if he is doing 55 mph. Well we got there the bouncer knew him we got in free except for Denises friend they wouldn't let him in because he didn't have a collar on his shirt, so he left. We sat down Mark got up to go to thd bathroom. Another guy asked me to dance I said yes, after that he bought me a drink, which was more than mark was doing. We danced again. The guy asked me to deal some coke for him I had no idea what to do. Then I saw Mark and Denise getting up to leave so I told the guy I had to go. Got outside and Mark starts yelling @ me so I yelled back telling him he was a cheap bastard, invites me out and doesn't buy me a drink. Then on our way homd now mind you there are three of us in this vette and Denise is not small. She starts a fight w/this guy going down thd highway. Mark says your friends pretty radical am I gonna have to get out my gun. Sure enough he had a Colt 45. Finally I got home he told me he would pick me up for work in the morning, and he did I told my mom he was coming to pick me up. When she found out he had a vette she thought I hit the big time. One time while Mark was over Dale called and asked me out I said I hadn't heard from him in 3 wks. Then I told him I was seeing someone steady. Mark got mad then too. My mother told him ge had no right to be mad I wasn't wearing a ring. Well he fixed that that weekend. He asked me too marry him I said yes, this was three mths after we met. There were many times he made me cry. I still say he was nuts. We decided to get married Dec. 21 1985. Then toward the end of Sept. my mom told me Fred called. I wrestled w/hdthat for a couple weeks. I decided to break the engagement. By this time we were living w/my parents. At their suggestion to save money. I told Mark I didn't want to marry him. He cried like a baby. I caved. We got married on the set date. I was 3 mths pregnant then. Didn't get the wedding I wanted. Mark could never seem to hold a job.